Matthew 18:21-35 - Peter Sharp

1. Peter's question about forgiving "seven times" was already generous by rabbinic standards (which taught forgiving three times). What does this reveal about Peter's understanding of grace at this point in his discipleship?

2. How does the concept of "eye for eye, tooth for tooth" help us understand the nature of our debt to God?

3. Our debt's magnitude relates both to "who we have sinned against" and the "volume and pervasiveness" of our sin. How do these two factors compound our guilt before God?

4. The parable seems to suggest that forgiveness can be revoked (v. 34). How do we reconcile this with the doctrine of eternal security? Is Jesus teaching salvation by works?

5. Jesus warns that the Father will treat unforgiving people as the king treated the wicked servant. How seriously should we take this warning, and what does it tell us about God's character?

6. Do you agree our problem with forgiveness is practical, not theoretical? What specific barriers prevent you from forgiving others, even when you know you should?

7. Unforgiveness often shows up as bitterness, desire for revenge, or inability to bear seeing certain people. Which of these manifestations, if any, do you recognise in your own life?

8. The first servant's debt was cancelled because he "wasn't able to pay." How does acknowledging your complete inability to atone for sin change your perspective on both receiving and extending forgiveness?

9. Romans 12:19 teaches us to "leave it to the wrath of God" rather than seeking vengeance. What practical steps can you take to truly entrust justice to God when you've been wronged?

10. There is a distinction between forgiveness and saying someone "didn't really hurt us." How can you practice true forgiveness that acknowledges real harm while still releasing your right to revenge?

11. How should the reality that we're commanded to forgive change the way we approach apologies with fellow Christians? How freely do you apologise, and how do you expect others to respond?

12. The sermon suggests we can forgive even when someone hasn't asked for forgiveness. What would this look like in a specific relationship where you've been hurt but received no acknowledgment of wrongdoing?

13. The sermon concludes that "the one who ends up unforgiven is the one who won't forgive." Looking at your current relationships, are there people you need to forgive? What specific steps will you take this week to begin that process?